Hello, my name is Cindy Charles Ouellette. And I’m an Addiction Recovery Coach in Texas and West Virginia. I have certificates in both states. And today I would like to tell you about an adventure that I had with my 9th step which is: And let me read it to you:
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible accept when to do so would injure them or others.
And that’s what we do in recovery so that we can be good with our self, regain our self-worth, be proud of our self and walk tall.
Anyway, I got clean and sober in a third world country. And I had done my 4th and 5th Step using Joe and Charlie recordings. And I had done my 5th Step by taking a trip to the United States for a few days to give that 5th Step in English. I wasn’t really able to do that in Spanish. And then at that time when I was doing that process of my 5th Step, I was able to get strong enough to know that I could come back to my country without drinking; and it was going to be O.K.; that I would be able to make it alone in America at the age of 59 starting a new life.
Today's recovery tip is titled: Sponsor. The ideal sponsor is someone who is 5 to 10 years insobriety and still goes to meetings and still uses their sponsor. It's important that our sponsor has done the 12 steps, in order to guide us through the 12 steps (even if we already did the steps in the treatment program or are not). Trust your instincts, when looking for a sponsor. We do not want to pick a sponsor who seems like a great best friend. We've all gotten drunk and wasted with great best friends. Scope the rooms for that person who has the sobriety that you want. Take a big gulp, step right up and ask "Uh, Will you be my sponsor?". Remember, don't confuse sponsor with support team and buddies from rehab. We need a sponsor who has done the steps and is sober 5 to 10 years and still goes to meetings and uses a sponsor. These are what the old-timers used as a formula for finding sponsors and they did it pretty well!
Today's recovery tip is the topic: It is only for a period of time. When we first start out in recovery from drugs and alcohol, it's important to do a meeting a day (sometimes two meeting a day, especially on weekends). That is so that we can learn to deal with our body and mind still craving the drink or drug. So it is important to stay around folks in recovery, even if you don't know any of them. They've been through it. Share what you're experiencing. 50% of what you are feeling gets reduced by sharing it when you feel it. One of the reasons you are guided to do 90 meetings in 90 days is to be able to be in the right place to share or lessen the toxic of your mind. If you are from a faith-based fellowship, just introduce yourself in this way when you go to regular recovery 12-step meetings: "Hi, my name is Cindy and I have an honest desire not to drink or drug today. That is the only requirement for membership. So this too shall pass. It is only for a period of time. 90 in 90.
Today's recovery tip for the day is about 'Easy does it'. It's really not that big a deal. What crisis baffled you 29 days ago at this very hour? No clue? Well, today's issue at this hour will be forgotten in 29 days, just as well. So, just label what's happening as: 'easy does it'. Life happens in recovery, too. Just stick to your recovery routine and call a sponsor if you need to. Don't pick up, no matter what, and call your sponsor if you need to.
Today's recovery tip for the day is about 21 days. What are you dealing with at present; a person, a place a thing that is making you restless, irritable and discontent? Are you getting slippery? Pray for the person, place or thing, the issue 21 days; even if it irks you to do so. You're praying to your higher power as you are able to comprehend or understand that higher power at this stage of your recovery. This is regiment. This is positive recovery behavior in the making. This is tapping into the miracle and promises of your spiritual awakening that you are experiencing. Just keep track and be honest about it for 21 days.
Today's recovery tip today is the topic, Faith without works is dead. When we come into the program the faith we had to exist, to do ,to survive; was our faith in our drugs and alcohol. So, a lot of times sponsors will tell sponcees to fake it till you make it and that works. This does not have to do with religion our denomination. It's about God the way you have come to understand Him thus far in life. And that power, that God, is not you! So go to meetings, read your recovery book, get a sponsor, ask for help. And, fake it till you make it. Faithwithout works is dead.
The more we go to meetings, the more we hear how other people stay clean and sober in situations that they are going through. This gives us the insight to share with others, who are going through that same type issue. Of course, we only say: "I heard a person share about the same thing. We do not mention names. This is important to validate those who have blessed us through a share. We give validation to the original sharer. We give comfort and guidance to the people down the road with those same issues to whom we repeat are learned knowledge. We stay clean and sober all through it. So we keep it by giving it away.
Today's recovery tip today is the topic Trust and Reply on God. Remember to trust and rely on God is about God of your understanding. Each of us has reached our own concept of our Creator related to our life experiences. The Big Book says that if you had a religion that you were raised in, take what you like and leave the rest. Your present concept of God that you had before will change as you grow in recovery. If you were raised without a concept of God, please just remember this: whoever your higher power is, it is not you. You already were your only higher power. And made all you're using and abusing decisions on your own. And that's what got us here! Time to change your tactics and time to change your power! Trust and rely on God.